Decision Making For Elderly Assisted Living

Navigating the world of assisted living for your elderly parents can sometimes feel like being lost at sea without a compass or a map. How do you afford it? What do you look for? Where do you start? What if your parents are not cooperating? What if you hire someone and you don’t like them? Dealing with the technicalities first is one way to start checking things off that To Do list.

Things to consider when making these big decisions are exactly what your elderly parents’ needs are. Depending on their mental and physical health, you might need someone to come in just for companionship. More likely you will need to have the professional services of a nurse or rehabilitation specialist. The following list will help guide you through important things to consider when figuring out assisted living for your elderly parents.

Your Home Or Their Home?

Nobody wants to lose their independence. For an elderly parent to move into their adult child’s home means a loss of freedom and privacy for everyone involved. It is a major, life changing decision. The adult child needs to consider their own needs and how much of themselves they can give. If the elderly parent is healthy and contributes, maybe this is not so much of an issue. If they have mental and physical health considerations, then deciding whose home they will live in will affect the level of assisted care needed.

Level of Care

The next thing to consider is the right person to take care of your elderly parent. If the condition of the parent is acute or chronic then deciding between a Registered Nurse, Licensed Practical Nurse, Certified Nurse Assistant or Companion is important. Deciding if you need round the clock care, or someone to come in once or twice a day will have to be assessed. Do they need someone to cook, clean, and run errands?

Financial considerations will be something that will affect every decision regarding the level of care. Find your state’s SHIP (State Health Insurance Assistance Program). They have counseling that will guide you in making informed benefit decisions. If you are eligible for Medicare, you will be eligible for SHIP counseling.


Is the agency providing the care for your parent reputable? Due diligence in researching the background of the agency you hire can prevent many headaches down the road. Ask for references and make sure that background checks of all employees are standard procedure. We ensure background checks are performed on every home health care aide at Better Living Senior Services.

When all is said and done, in home care is probably the preferred option for most people. The pros are that a person can “age” in their own home with their own family. This level of privacy allows the freedom and dignity to have control and independence over their own schedule and routines. Cons can be the relatively high cost of professional care and other family members can feel like this is intrusive. Each family has to consider the needs of everyone involved and do what is best for them.